Choosing funeral songs is a deeply personal decision that depends on the wishes of the deceased, the preferences of their loved ones, and the tone you want to set for the service. Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you select the right songs:
1. Consider the Deceased’s Wishes
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Did they have a favourite song or artist?
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Had they ever mentioned what music they’d want at their funeral?
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If they were religious, would they prefer hymns or spiritual music?
2. Think About the Tone and Message
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Uplifting & Hopeful: Some prefer songs that celebrate life rather than focus on loss.
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Reflective & Somber: If you want to create a peaceful atmosphere, slow instrumental or classical pieces can work well.
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Religious & Spiritual: If faith was important to them, consider traditional hymns or gospel music.
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Personal & Meaningful: Songs with lyrics that resonate with their life, values, or relationships can be powerful.
3. Decide on Key Moments for Music
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Prelude (before the service starts) – calming background music
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Processional (as guests enter) – solemn or meaningful music
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During the Service – specific songs that reflect the deceased’s life
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Recessional (as people leave) – uplifting or hopeful music
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At the Burial or Reception – music that brings comfort.
4. Personalise the Music Selection
We have created a list below of traditional funeral songs however if they don’t feel right, choose something more unique to the person’s life - perhaps a song they always played in the car, danced to, or sang at family gatherings.
