Loss of a Spouse or Partner

Losing a Spouse: Navigating Grief & Finding Support

Nothing prepares you for the loss of your life partner. After 20 years of marriage, losing my wife has been the most painful and life-changing experience I’ve ever faced. If you’re reading this because you’re in the same situation, I want you to know—you are not alone.

Grief is a deeply personal journey, but here are some things that have helped me, and I hope they might help you too:

1. Let Yourself Grieve in Your Own Way

There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Some days, you might feel numb. Other days, the weight of loss will hit you like a wave. Take it one moment at a time and allow yourself to feel whatever comes.

2. Seek Emotional Support

Talking about your loss, whether with close friends, family, or a professional, can make a difference. There are wonderful bereavement support services in Ireland:

Irish Hospice Foundation – Bereavement support and advice: www.hospicefoundation.ie
Anam Cara – Support for those grieving a spouse or family member: www.anamcara.ie
Pieta House – Emotional support for those struggling with grief: www.pieta.ie
3. Take Care of Yourself, Even When It Feels Impossible

Grief can be exhausting. Simple things like eating properly, getting outside for fresh air, and sleeping enough can feel like mountains to climb, but they do help. Start small and be kind to yourself.

4. Accept Help & Lean on Others

Friends and family often want to help but don’t always know how. If someone offers to cook a meal, help with paperwork, or just sit with you—let them.

5. Find Practical Guidance

There’s a lot to handle after losing a spouse—financial matters, legal paperwork, and figuring out a new routine. These resources can help:

Citizens Information – Guidance on legal and financial matters: www.citizensinformation.ie
Widow & Widowers Pension Info: www.welfare.ie
6. Keep Their Memory Alive in Your Own Way

Whether it’s lighting a candle, writing about them, listening to their favorite music, or simply speaking their name—keeping their memory alive can be a source of comfort.

7. Know That It’s Okay to Move Forward, in Your Own Time

Moving forward doesn’t mean forgetting. It means finding a way to carry your loved one with you while also allowing yourself to live again, when you’re ready.

If you’re walking this path, I want you to know that you don’t have to do it alone. There is support out there, and while grief never truly disappears, in time, the pain becomes more manageable.

Sending strength to anyone going through this.

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